That Woman Has My Sweater On

Posted by on Oct 5, 2011 in Journal, Mama | 1 comment

My sister has come for a visit.  I've been telling Mama all week that Cissy was coming.  Mama's reaction.... "it's about time she came to see us.  She doesn't live that far away."  I remind her that Cissy lives in Mobile and we live in Seattle.... that Cissy is flying on an airplane to come see us. Anyway... Mama was taking a nap when Cissy arrived.  I kind of woke her up and told her that Cissy was here.  I could see the excitement and joy in her eyes.   She was clearly glad to see my sister. Then I made a mistake.... Cissy was cold and wanted to borrow a sweater.  I got her one of Mama's sweaters... actually a sweater Cissy had given Mama for her birthday last year.  When Mama saw Cissy with her sweater on, she asked "why does that woman have my sweater on?"  I tried to tell her Cissy was borrowing her sweater.   Mama became fixated on her sweater.  It was kind of funny but Mama was totally serious and actually felt offended that someone else was wearing her sweater. Finally I decided to get Cissy another sweater, thinking that this would ease Mama's mind.  It did to some extent, but I had to show Mama her sweater (back in her dresser) several times before she became less anxious about it. Two things.... I was surprised at Mama's reaction over Cissy wearing her sweater.... and perplexed that half the time she referred to Cissy as "that woman".  Mama was clearly confused and disoriented.   Cissy was good to take it all in stride but I would imagine it is a little sad that her mom forgets who she is. We got old family pictures out and the three of us looked through them.  Mama became more comfortable after that. This incident reminds me how easily Mama becomes confused and overwhelmed when something out of the normal happens... even when it's something good!!

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  1. This is my first visit to your website. Enjoyed it so much. Love your photos. You have a gift, Marie. Not just your photos, but your writing also. Love you.

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